So there’s this game I play.
And part of me kinda hates it.
But in reality, it’s one of my favorite games of all time.
And it’s got to do with fear.
The Four Letter “F Word”
Most of the time, fear is thing that holds us back from actually doing the things we want to do.
Not just feeling what we want, or talking about it, or dreaming about it…but listening to our intuition and doing the dang thing.
Whether it’s a big thing like changing careers, leaving a relationship, or moving across the country…
Or a small thing like saying “Hi” to that person, or asking someone to buy your product, or going to a social event…
Fear is that gremlin of resistance that holds us back.
Sure, there are times where the fear is warranted. But most of the time, it’s not. It’s blown way out of proportion.
Your #1 Barrier
If you have the tendency to hold yourself back back because of fear…then fear is the #1 thing holding you back from your growth.
It’s a prominent barrier.
We often feel like fear is a BIG red light, telling us to stop immediately.
But in reality, that’s backwards.
Fear is a green light, beckoning us towards our growth.
Which brings us to our game.
The Fear Game
I first learned this from one of my coaches, Michael Balchan. (Though he might’ve gotten it from someone else.)
The game is simple. There’s just one rule.
IF I wanna do something, but fear doing it…THEN I have to do it.
It’s like an algorithm.
Feel fear? Green light. Get after it.
Because you don’t learn much by sitting in your comfort zone all day long.
So when you have two options:
- The thing that keeps you in your comfort zone
- The thing that stretches you into new growth and learning
Do the one that scares you. Because that’s where the growth comes from.
So…you might be able to see why I have a love/hate relationship with this game.
I hate it for a split second, because it means I’m jumping into discomfort.
But immediately after the fact, I love it.
Because I’ve proven to myself that I’m the type of person who takes action towards the things that I want, even in the face of fear.
And that is the type of person I want to be.
The Regret-Free Life
There’s this woman Bronnie Ware, who was a palliative care nurse for many years.
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
See that word “courage” in there?
That’s what you practice every time you act on something you fear.
So if you want to live a life that’s free of regrets, it starts by practicing courage.
Put it Into Practice
The challenge is simple: try playing the Fear Game.
If you feel fear…
- Smile and welcome the green light.
- Rub your hands together and say “bring it on!”
- Take the path of courageous action
- No matter the result, celebrate yourself for acting in face of fear. And for taking another step down the path of life that’s true to yourself.
You won’t regret it.